Yes, we all know, men have a presumptuous ego about them, especially in Africa. He goes, “I am the man in this relationship” and without completing the rest of the statement, you already know what he means.
But really, is a “man in the relationship” suppose to be all about domination and nothing more? Is he suppose to take certain liberty that crosses the invisible border line and turn it around on the helpless woman who is fighting to keep her man?
Certainly not! A woman possesses has much power (if not more) than a man in a relationship but empowerment is key. It’s like a brand new Porsche with no fuel, it still wouldn’t go anywhere, if the woman does not take her time to master the intricate workings of her man, she might end up being enslaved in a relationship that was supposed to give her joy and peace.
So what are the basic things a woman should know about her man?
1. Understand Character: First, she has to understand who the man is, you know, his character and personality traits. This helps in the communication process – what to say and when to say what.
2. Understand communication: There are various ways to communicate. Research has shown that in a relationship, non-verbal communication holds as much weight as verbal communication; the vital thing is to know when to apply which form.
3. Understand yourself: Although women are wired to be emotional, you cannot trust your emotions… atleast not 100% because if you act according to your emotion every time you are – for instance – upset, you may rekindle a flickering flame. Having a full knowledge of who you are can really help your approach to situations.
4. Read OnoBello.com’s this week Essential Reads for the Soul and make sure you lay hold of the books. Also get a copy for your man, especially number 2 book!
Manology – Tyrese Gibson & Rev Run
Book Dimensions: 5.5 x 1.2 x 8.5 inches
Number of Pages: 288 pages
Publication Year: 2013
Tyrese and Rev are unlikely best friends—Rev is married with six kids and Tyrese is a single dad still hesitant to settle down. But after an unexpected disagreement in which Rev insisted that marriage is forever, and Tyrese pushed that you could bail when the sex went bad, the two decided not just to agree to disagree but to team up and open their debate to a larger audience. Even though they’re at different points in their journeys, both have clear insights on what it takes to make a relationship work and what can sink it instantly.
The 5 Love Languages – Gary D Chapman
Book Dimensions: 5.9 x 0.6 x 8.9 inches
Number of Pages: 208 pages
Publication Year: 2009 (New Edition)
Publisher: Northfield Publishing
In The Five Love Languages Men's Edition, New York Times bestselling author Dr. Gary Chapman guides husbands in identifying, understanding, and speaking their wife's love language. Each chapter concludes with ten simple and practical ideas for expressing that love language to your wife. You'll both enjoy taking the new love languages assessment and building a lasting, loving marriage.
Act Like A Lady, Think Like A Man – Steve Harvey
Book Dimensions: 5.9 x 0.6 x 8 inches
Number of Pages: 240 pages
Publication Year: 2011 (Reprint Edition)
The new guru of relationship advice, Steve Harvey’s Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man is an invaluable self-help book that can empower women everywhere to take control of their relationships. stand-up comedian gets serious, sharing his wealth of knowledge, insight, and no-nonsense advice for every good woman who wants to find a good man or make her current love last. The movie “Think Like A Man” starring Taraji P. Henson, Michael Ealy, Meagan Good, Gabrielle Union, Kevin Hart, Jerry Ferrara is based on this Steve Harvey’s book.
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