Are you in love? If you are just thank God. Be careful, have you mistaken sexual urge or body attraction for love? Have you just been dejected and in pain? Wipe your tears and thank God because you have been rescued from a complex web of lies and deceit. You have just been freed from the bondage of an embryo that is too small for you to see but yet the most dominant force in your brain, heart and soul to your marrow. Are you in a state of bewilderment in your love? Then read through and advice yourself.
Oh love! You are so powerful, romantic and sweet but yet you could be cruel and bitter. You are an invisible oblivion that cannot be grabbed but yet you are the most powerful thing known by mankind. You could soften the heart of a lion that it could be captured by a pregnant woman with just a bare hand. You made the strongest man in the bible Samson, to be caught like a sleeping drunkard because you are commanding. No wonder great men and women of this world have fallen to your affection so easily like the way the deaths of the pharaoh’s armies in the Red Sea were made by God to look easy. No wonder some aspiring Reverend fathers and Reverend sisters drop their robes mid way just to satisfy your calling because you are so powerful. And that is why those that understand how influential you are have never stopped to defend Romeo and Juliet. When you hit someone, you have got the capability to make that person sometimes look stupid, confused, childish or even silly and vulnerable. And that tends to justify the reason why some say you are blind.
“Love could soften the heart
of a lion that it could be
captured by a pregnant woman
with just a bare hand”
Dear reader, just pray that you remain in a state of obscurity to this thing called love until God’s time otherwise if you get enveloped to the wrong person and at the wrong time then you will understand how dangerous it is for a general to go to war without a weapon.
Love is powerful and can drive some people to do a lot of incredible things. In view of this; how much can love push you? Can you go the extra mile to play the part of Romeo and Juliet just to be with your partner? Are you happy with your marriage? Are you happy in that courtship or are you just still hanging on because of what people will say? Have you searched your conscience and can you beat your chest to say yes I am satisfied with my partner or my choice to be?
Always have it at the back of your mind that it takes two to tango and that in the circle of love it is not a one way traffic. Therefore, when a man or a woman says that your love is no longer needed, do not worry yourself. Just be courageous enough, pick the pieces and move on with your life. Every man needs a woman visa versa but absolutely not the one that will send you to an early grave. You should know that your love alone is not enough to keep both of you happy, even when both of you love each other, some important factors like understanding, trust and compatibility must be considered amongst you before that nuptial mass or else you are doomed. Do not wait until you are rejected and heartbroken in your courtship, when you have seen enough evidence of him/her not appreciating your feelings, be quick to say goodbye because such a person does not deserve your love and he/she is nothing but a parasite hindering your potential partner getting closer.
“Those that understand how
influential love is have never
stopped to defend Romeo and Juliet”
Age should not be a barrier to any relationship because it is only a number and if you doubt it go and study the romantic history of late Biafran leader whom the Igbos love so much even in death, Chief Emeka Odimegwu Ojukwu, the “Ikemba of Nnewi”, “Eze Igbo gburur” and the one time most beautiful girl in Nigeria Bianca Onoh.
Do not rush into marriage otherwise you will rush out. Do not pretend or trick anybody into marriage under any guise because if you do your days will be full of regrets and sorrow until your partner tricks out of the marriage. And do not get married out of pity otherwise you have pitied yourself to destruction. Do not just get married to anybody that comes your way simply because you are lonely or feel frustrated. Do not get married because of position, money, beauty, academic qualifications or out of selfish interest because many homes today are in shamble as a result of either of the points stated above. But get married to someone you are really in love with your whole heart, seek the face of God and do not allow societal influences to deprive you of your happiness because not all that glitters is gold. Therefore, is your aspiring partner not at the academic level you want? Be wise and support him/her to that level and with God’s favour you can never regret your choice.