Sometimes you are the one spoiling something for yourself and you may not even know it. This might just save you thousands in couple’s therapy: Your partner is not always the problem. Sorry. You&#39re welcome.

Mistake #1: Leaving the Romance Out

Romance always has been, and always will be one of the important aspects of any relationship. You may continually need to sweep him/her off her feet with little and not so little acts of love.

Mistake #2: Having Your Heart-to-Hearts on the Side

You know who really understands what you&#39re going through? The person going through that situation with you, and that’s who you should talk to. If problems come up don’t take them outside.

Mistake #3: Believing in the 15-Year Immunity

There is a treacherous belief in the 15-Year Immunity. Just because you&#39ve been together for a long time doesn&#39t mean you&#39re beyond trouble. Relationships are bound to have rough patches so brace yourself for the bump.

Mistake #4: Staying Senselessly Shy in Bed

Be reserved when meeting someone&#39s parents or going to church. Not in bed. Never in bed.

Mistake #5: Focusing Only on Your Mistake

You should know when to talk to your partner about mistakes made by both of you. It’s a joint venture for a reason, and together is the best way to work through problems.

Mistake #6: Mistaking the One for the Only One

Once you&#39re in a relationship, he doesn&#39t have to be your love and your life partner and your racketball opponent and your cooking assistant. You have other friends to fulfill other needs, so – this is important!