It’s come to that time of the year again when the wedding season is well underway. As I begin to receive multiple wedding invitations I cannot help but reflect on my own special day. There are numerous things I never thought I would have to tell people not to do but in many cases common sense is not so common.
So, today I am bringing you an article originally written by Charli Penn via Essence.com on 11 ways not to ruin your friend’s wedding that I think is very helpful for wedding goers. Don't let an insensitive move on your part turn the best day of your friend’s life into the worst.
We all know that the spotlight is always on Bridezillas and they get all the bad press, but sometimes the wedding guests are the real nightmare. Here's your guide to wedding guest “don'ts” to avoid.
1. Don't Wear White
The only ones who should stand out at a wedding are the bride and groom. If you're the “other girl” wearing the fancy white dress, it will make it hard for the real stars of the day to shine.
2. Do Know Your Limits
We get it. Everyone likes to drink at weddings. Just be careful not to take too many trips to the open bar. There's a thin line between tipsy and overboard and everyone will notice if you cross it. While others may be laughing with you, the bride and groom sure won't find it funny.
3. Don't Complain About The Music or Food
Whether its your scene or not, remember that the bride and groom (and their family) spent lots of time and money planning the day's events. Being overheard badmouthing any aspect of the big day is an even bigger no-no.
4. Do Control Your Kids
If the happy couple is kind enough to welcome everyone, big and small, to the day's festivities, try to at least be respectful of that and keep a close eye on your kids. This means taking a crying baby for a walk while the ceremony is going on, and not letting them play under the tables or run wild on the dance floor. If your child can't sit still for longer than five minutes, consider hiring a babysitter and making it a grown and sexy night for you and yours.
5. Don't Show Up Empty-Handed
Whether a wedding is big or small, it costs the bride and groom a good amount of money to have you celebrate with them. Showing up without a gift or card implies that you only came to party, and not to pay tribute to their love. There's no price minimum here, but you should always give something from the heart.
6. Don't Ignore The Dress Code or “Asoebi”
If a bride and groom have taken the time to specify a dress code or ‘asoebi” (Nigerian outfits made from matching fabric to be worn by a group of family and friends) for their big day, it's probably because they have a vision in mind for the optics or there are certain requirements for their venue. Showing up in a different dress code as a friend of the bride when you should be in wearing the asoebi will make you look silly. Plus, it says you just didn't care.
7. Don't Bring a Guest They Can't Stand
No bride wants to look out into the crowd on her wedding day and spot an old friend strolling in with her ex or arch-nemesis. Please, choose your plus ones wisely.
8. No Impromptu Speeches!
You've had too much to drink. You're not in the bridal party. You know some very embarassing things about the bride and groom. Do these sound familiar? If any, or all, apply, you have no business grabbing the mic.
9. Don't Order Two Plates Of Food Just For Yourself
This should go without saying, but we have heard a few stories about this one from brides before. Unless you're attending a buffet style dinner reception, it's safe to assume that the bride and groom are paying per plate. This means you get just one. Ordering two meals means the newlyweds may be handed an additional bill on their way home.
10. Don't Be Overly Flirtatious
Weddings are a great place for singles to meet other singles, but try not to come on too strong. If your over-the-top flirting is attracting attention from more than just the guy you're eyeing, you're probably overdoing it a bit. Relax and enjoy the evening. Remember, it's a wedding not the club.
11. Don't Share Photos Without Permission
Just because you're an Instagram junkie, don't assume the bride and groom want their wedding photos floating around all over the Internet while they're still taking their portraits. Ask before you share!
Credit- Charli Penn via Essence.com
Photo Credit- Shereese and Brandon’s wedding via www.munaluchibridal.com
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