Relationships & Life: Ladies! Your Guide To Wedding Guest “DON’Ts”!

It’s come to that time of the year again when the wedding season is well underway. As I begin to receive multiple wedding invitations I cannot help but reflect on my own special day. There are numerous things I never thought I would have to tell people not to do but in many cases common sense is not so common.



So, today I am bringing you an article originally written by Charli Penn via on 11 ways not to ruin your friend’s wedding that I think is very helpful for wedding goers. Don&#39t let an insensitive move on your part turn the best day of your friend’s life into the worst.

We all know that the spotlight is always on Bridezillas and they get all the bad press, but sometimes the wedding guests are the real nightmare. Here&#39s your guide to wedding guest “don&#39ts” to avoid.



1. Don&#39t Wear White

The only ones who should stand out at a wedding are the bride and groom. If you&#39re the “other girl” wearing the fancy white dress, it will make it hard for the real stars of the day to shine.

2. Do Know Your Limits

We get it. Everyone likes to drink at weddings. Just be careful not to take too many trips to the open bar. There&#39s a thin line between tipsy and overboard and everyone will notice if you cross it. While others may be laughing with you, the bride and groom sure won&#39t find it funny.

3. Don&#39t Complain About The Music or Food

Whether its your scene or not, remember that the bride and groom (and their family) spent lots of time and money planning the day&#39s events. Being overheard badmouthing any aspect of the big day is an even bigger no-no.

4. Do Control Your Kids

If the happy couple is kind enough to welcome everyone, big and small, to the day&#39s festivities, try to at least be respectful of that and keep a close eye on your kids. This means taking a crying baby for a walk while the ceremony is going on, and not letting them play under the tables or run wild on the dance floor. If your child can&#39t sit still for longer than five minutes, consider hiring a babysitter and making it a grown and sexy night for you and yours.

5. Don&#39t Show Up Empty-Handed

Whether a wedding is big or small, it costs the bride and groom a good amount of money to have you celebrate with them. Showing up without a gift or card implies that you only came to party, and not to pay tribute to their love. There&#39s no price minimum here, but you should always give something from the heart.

6. Don&#39t Ignore The Dress Code or “Asoebi”

If a bride and groom have taken the time to specify a dress code or ‘asoebi” (Nigerian outfits made from matching fabric to be worn by a group of family and friends) for their big day, it&#39s probably because they have a vision in mind for the optics or there are certain requirements for their venue. Showing up in a different dress code as a friend of the bride when you should be in wearing the asoebi will make you look silly. Plus, it says you just didn&#39t care.

7. Don&#39t Bring a Guest They Can&#39t Stand

No bride wants to look out into the crowd on her wedding day and spot an old friend strolling in with her ex or arch-nemesis. Please, choose your plus ones wisely.

8. No Impromptu Speeches!

You&#39ve had too much to drink. You&#39re not in the bridal party. You know some very embarassing things about the bride and groom. Do these sound familiar? If any, or all, apply, you have no business grabbing the mic.

9. Don&#39t Order Two Plates Of Food Just For Yourself

This should go without saying, but we have heard a few stories about this one from brides before. Unless you&#39re attending a buffet style dinner reception, it&#39s safe to assume that the bride and groom are paying per plate. This means you get just one. Ordering two meals means the newlyweds may be handed an additional bill on their way home.

10. Don&#39t Be Overly Flirtatious

Weddings are a great place for singles to meet other singles, but try not to come on too strong. If your over-the-top flirting is attracting attention from more than just the guy you&#39re eyeing, you&#39re probably overdoing it a bit. Relax and enjoy the evening. Remember, it&#39s a wedding not the club.

11. Don&#39t Share Photos Without Permission

Just because you&#39re an Instagram junkie, don&#39t assume the bride and groom want their wedding photos floating around all over the Internet while they&#39re still taking their portraits. Ask before you share!

Credit- Charli Penn via
Photo Credit- Shereese and Brandon’s wedding via


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